Tuesday, September 08, 2009

Are you a PLAYER or a POSER

This weeks "Networking Tip" is brought to you by my good friend Tony Bourke, who has just co-authored his first book with such greats as Brian Tracey, Dr Anne Curtis, Dr Wayne Dyer, Liz Vassey, Ernie Hudson, Bill Harris, Zachary Levi and many more. Called "In Service" its a collection of stories of people found their own passion and aided others in the process - very inspirational. If you are looking for inspiration do yourself a favor and get a copy. Tony is donating some of the proceeds to the Cancer Council, now that is a "Givers Gain" attitude. Click here for more details.

After reading Tony's book, it got me thinking. There are a lot of people who say they are going to do more (for someone or some kind of cause) but some how something gets in their way and they never get a round to it. If it continues people begin to see a pattern and they stop relying on you. Then there are those like Tony that say they do something, commit to doing it and then take action. These are the types of people (PLAYERS) you can reply on and when times are tough the very same people are the ones you turn to when you want something done or to buy or people you refer. Action builds trust, and trust is something you want in a referral partner.

A POSER is someone who says they do something for someone but really they are saying it for themselves - they never actually do anything. No one wants to partner with a gunna (gunna do this, gunna do that, they simply don't have the time these days.

So, who do you have on your team, if you have POSER, give feedback and move on. Begin to look out for PLAYERS and when you find them the quickest way to build a realtionship with them to ask "How can I help you" - then do it. Livbe a life like Tony "In Service"

"If I spent as much time doing the things I worry about getting done as I do worrying about doing them, I wouldn't have anything to worry about."TV Show Writer, Beryl Pfizer

Your action for today is to take one of the things you are currently worried about and turn it into an action item.